I was a child of the ‘80s who got to enjoy watching “Sesame Street” before it went “woke.” That was even the pre-Elmo days when it was just fun learning disguised as entertainment. I loved all the characters and had no idea I was memorizing my letters and numbers from all the silly songs and skits.
As I am sure most children had their favorite characters, mine waffled between many of them. Among these, Oscar the Grouch never fell off the short list for me. Yes, his attitude stank, literally and figuratively, but there was something about the fact that I never had to guess what he was thinking! If he thought it, he said it. Plus, even when he was wrong, he could admit as much, but always with a bit of attitude. Then he would sling some sarcasm so things never got too serious!
Oscar lived in a trash can, which seemed fitting, because his negativity about anything and everything was part of his character. He even proudly sang his theme song from time to time, “I Love Trash.” Is it no wonder that even all these years later when I encounter a “Negative Nancy,” I immediately think of Oscar, complaining as he sat in his trash can house?
My mom used to warn me as a girl to never be someone’s trash can. What she meant was to never allow someone to dump their negativity into me. This could be complaining, gossip, disloyalty, or a poor spirit some people seem to wear like a winter coat. While Oscar’s grumpiness was endearing on a television screen, the “stinking thinking” encountered in the real world has a way of staining our own spirits if we are not careful.
It is so easy to let this happen. Often, we think we are just being a good friend by listening to a long vent session or a biting bit of gossip. However, without vigilant awareness, we can quickly find ourselves wallowing in that same heap of trash, feeling just as cynical as the person who brought it to us. The Bible provides a perfect “quality control” checklist for the thoughts we allow to take up residence in our minds: Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Philippians 4:8)
When someone starts dumping all her trash, we should weigh it against this verse. Is it true, honest, just, pure, or lovely? Can this information be called a “good report?” If it is just trash, we should not let it past the threshold of our hearts and minds. Being a good friend is possible without sacrificing the health of our own spirits.
We also must not add to the pile ourselves. Negativity is contagious. Without diligence, we can go from being the listener to being the one hauling the trash to the next person. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that Death and life are in the power of the tongue:… When we refuse to join in on the grumbling, we effectively “put the lid” on the trash can. Ephesians 4:29 commands, Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Oscar the Grouch was content in his trash can because he loved things that were rotten and negative. However, as daughters of the King, we are called to something better. Solomon put it plainly: Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:23) We can love the “Oscars” in our lives and offer them the light of Christ, but we must be diligent about protecting our own spirits.
We all must choose what kind of vessel we will be. We must refuse to become a receptacle for the world’s trash; instead, let us choose to be a vessel of honor, set apart for what is precious and pure. With our vigilance in keeping a clean heart and mind—free from negativity—God can use us in amazing ways to do His greater work.
Today, let us keep our lids tight against the gossip. Keep our eyes on what is good, and remember that we were made for the King’s palace, not the neighborhood trash can!
But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour. If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work. (II Timothy 2:20–21)
by Tracie S. Burns