When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up. – Psalm 27:10
I was reflecting recently about the blessing of the family of God. I honestly have no idea where I would be today without my church. God has given me this gift whose love, kindness, and selfless sacrifice have proven over and over again that the people of God are the greatest family.
I grew up in a broken home, endured the difficulties of being part of a blended family, and then suffered through the grief of losing my mother to cancer when I was just 11 years old. Shortly after this, I was rejected and abandoned by my stepfather and taken in by my aunt and uncle, who helped to get me into church in those early teen years. Eventually, they no longer wanted me living in their home. Due to various personal and family issues, arrangements were made to send me to live in a girls’ home several states away.
Just one day before I was to leave, a lady in our church invited me to live in her home, “adopting” me as part of her family and becoming my church “mom.” My church family, at that point, literally became the only family I had. While God ministered to me through this family, enduring all I had experienced while growing up was a heavy burden I carried for many years. Psalm 27:10 was a good reminder to me that, though my earthly family had left or abandoned me, God was always with me. He knew what I needed. He was and always is working behind the scenes, orchestrating the events in my life to get me to where I needed to be.
Christian lady, He has and is doing the same for you, too.
God later blessed me with an amazing husband and the shocker of a lifetime—twin daughters! I did not know how to keep a single tiny human alive, much less two at the same time! I felt panic, like many new moms do, as I was handed two tiny babies to care for on my own. Reality really began to sink in after I left the hospital and realized I had no idea what I was doing. I certainly needed God and appreciated the help of my church family.
Unfortunately, how easy it is to become accustomed to the blessings of God. So often, His blessings are taken for granted and are even expected. I have always been thankful for my church family, but God helped to renew that love for me just a few years ago. My husband was in the Navy when we met. We were blessed to be stationed in Jacksonville for about four years after we got married. However, just three and a half months after the Lord blessed us with our twin girls, we were reassigned to Norfolk, Virginia. To say I was surprised and disappointed by this decision is an understatement!
Once we received the orders, we determined that we were going to make the best of our time there. We joined a local Baptist church in the area and got involved in every ministry we could. However, as is typically the case when making those well-laid plans, things began to derail. It was one of those familiar times in life when it seemed everything was stacked against me. I was a first-time mom to newborn twins, barely getting any sleep, and facing a move away from everything safe and familiar. Just imagine the vast and overwhelming emotions I experienced. However, this was just the first of many trials God allowed me to endure in the coming months.
The night we arrived in Virginia, a tornado hit nearby. My husband and I, our babies, both of my husband’s sisters, and my 70-pound dog all crammed into a tiny half-bath for safety. That should have been a sign of what more was to come.
A week later—on Friday the 13th no less—I fell down an entire flight of steep stairs in our townhome. I am fairly certain that I broke at least one rib and my tailbone, yet life goes on. Because all the bedrooms were upstairs, I had no choice but to carry my two babies up and down those stairs daily while recovering.
The following week, my husband received the news that he would be leaving in just a couple of weeks. Contrary to what we had been told when we originally received his Navy orders, my husband was sent out on a ship and was gone almost our entire time stationed there. We had almost no communication while he was gone, except for a few emails when schedules and connectivity permitted. On rare occasions, we had a quick, time-limited phone call. This season was marked by a deep sense of loneliness for me—a loneliness compounded by one challenge after another.
At one point, our first child—our dog—became ill and almost died. I spent hours at the pet hospital, not knowing if she would survive. I had to send my husband an email to tell him that she probably would pass away before he returned.
As if that were not enough, three months after moving away, my pastor’s mother, my former pastor’s wife and dear friend, passed away unexpectedly. She had spent so much time in my teen and young adult years nurturing and teaching me how to be a Christian lady. Her death came as a shock, and I grieved her deeply.
Then, one evening after putting the girls to bed, I was looking forward to some time to myself. I was planning to clean and relax a little. Then, rain began seeping through the windows and pouring through the ceiling onto our dining room table, walls, and floors.
Soon after, I faced the worst case of strep I had ever experienced, while my girls struggled with sicknesses and allergic reactions. Family traveled from out of town to assist, yet each visit ended with someone ill or injured—fevers, stomach bugs, even rotator cuff injuries. My help became those who needed help.
My health continued to decline. Living with lupus meant my joints were in agony from getting up and down with my babies and climbing the steep stairs in our home. Then came gallbladder attacks that left me paralyzed on the floor for 30 minutes at a time—alone trying to care for my babies.
During our last few months in Virginia, I underwent gallbladder surgery, then another just weeks later to repair a hernia resulting from the surgeon’s mistake. Thankfully, I was able to spend a few months in Florida with my church “mom,” where I could recover and finally get the help I desperately needed.
While enduring all these things, I did not have the help or guidance of my husband. Most of these situations required quick action; I could not send him an email and wait around for an answer. I no longer had my church family nearby—the gift God had given me to help me through so many previous trials in my life. While we were in a good church, being new, I was not close to anyone yet. I was missing the deep relationships I had cultivated with those back in Florida.
In that season, all I truly had was God. I spent many hours in tears, but I also relearned that I could not survive without time in His Word and in prayer—not a bad place to be. I would never want to relive those experiences, and I will likely never return to Virginia. Yet through those months of struggle, God reminded me that He is all I need.
Isaiah 41:10 says, Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. When those you love most are taken in death or those who should love you most forsake you, God promises to strengthen and sustain you. He even provides “family” to help you along your path. When plans derail, when fears come, when your physical strength fails, when you feel inadequate, helpless, broken, and all alone, God is there. He shows up for His children again and again through the people He has placed in your life and through His Word.
After everything God has allowed in my life, I can testify that He truly is all we need.
by Alyssa King